32 Signs of Burnout in Advisors

burnouthelp13077350_mlAccording to the Oxford University Press, burnout is the physical or mental collapse caused by overwork or stress.

Burnout often creeps into our lives, a little at a time. One symptom on top of another and the next thing you know, you’re using words like “overwhelmed”, “exhausted”, and “burnt out” to describe how you feel.

There may also be a hidden societal issue at play; this has to do with your line of work. It is well known that social workers, nursing assistants and nonprofit managers are overworked and underpaid—and burn out as a result.

Many people think that because advisors (traders, CPAs, financial executives, etc.) earn an excellent living, they shouldn’t get burned out, overwhelmed, or continually frustrated. We all know there is no truth to this belief, but the thought may keep you from even considering burnout as a cause for your distress.

Here’s what I learned from being there and getting back (a few times).

1) As long as you help other people live better lives—and worry about the people you help—it’s possible you’ll find yourself feeling tired, and then may move to frustrated, overwhelmed, burnt out and possibly end up depressed.

2) The amount of money you make has -0- to do with these feelings.

3) If you don’t set boundaries, have a plan, and get help in your business, you may find yourself burned out.

4) Often, the only people who will know you’re burnt out are the people who love you. Listen to them.

5) Some of us love what we do so much we can do it 24-7. For me, that means I have to SCHEDULE fun, plan time to spend with family and friends, block out free days. This also means making sure I get enough sleep and eat healthy meals.

6) Creating systems, where they are needed, is a very helpful thing to do.

7) Know yourself and take care of yourself however is best for you.

I’m not a therapist (I’m a coach), but my own experience is that left unchecked, burnout often leads to depression. In fact, many of the “signs” below are also signs of depression and anxiety.

Learn the signs of burnout and catch it in its tracks. If you have an inkling that you’re depressed, please go directly to a doctor or therapist. There is hope and many different forms of help for those of us who deal with or live with depression.

1. Low motivation energy, even for things that used to get you excited.
2. High level of stress or anxiety.
3. Lost feeling of enjoyment from people, places and things you used to enjoy.
4. Lack of engagement in life.
5. You’re a lifelong learner who can’t remember the last time you learned something new.
6. You describe yourself as a workaholic.
7. You don’t remember the last time you spent a day playing.
8. You’re questioning being part of the profession you used to love.
9. Irritation, impatience, resentment or anger are often near the surface.
10. Not getting enough sleep or changes in sleep patterns.
11. No time or little time for yourself, friends, and family.
12. You’re always in a hurry because your time is very limited.
13. You hate walking into your office.
14. Difficulty concentrating or having fuzzy thinking.
15. You’ve taken on new habits that you know are unhealthy.
16. Energy drinks and caffeine have become your best friends.
17. Not feeling good about things you used to feel good about.
18. Can’t remember the last time you went out to eat dinner.
19. You always have too much to do.
20. You’re moody and have become cynical.
21. You don’t have a life after work.
22. You’re sick a lot.
23. You neglect preventative health maintenance.
24. You’ve turned green!
25. Constantly changing your mind or aren’t able to make decisions that stick.
26. Self-criticism has run rampant.
27. You’ve had a major weight loss or gain.
28. Feeling helpless, often, for no reason.
29. You’re working longer and longer, never catch up and feel guilty about it.
30. You eat by yourself, always eating at your desk or on the sofa.
31. You’ve isolated yourself.
32. Your place often looks like a disaster area and you haven’t had guest over in months (or years).

I am luckier than most. Because I graduated from Coach U, I have tons of resources, tools, and assessments that help me have a great life AND a great business. My clients use many of those assessments. Based on their needs, I’ve created additional assessments and checklists that help them simplify business, advise more, and live better.

(c) 2016 Elevating Your Business

Flowers bloom when we’re running a business

African Violets

Two years ago, I purchased, a sick looking African violet for $1. I’ve always had house plants, although fewer when I had cats, but what a gift to have flowers (deep purple) 1in the house in December.

Then last year a neighbor gave me a dying plant and it was so long since it bloomed that she didn’t remember what color the flowers were (light purple).

With the right soil and food, they are easy to take care for a give you a baby or two each year without extra care.

I’m at a point where the plants I repotted today will make some wonderful gifts (once they heal)!

Do you like plants, too? Maybe you have African violets hat are ready to propagate from leaves or separate? Here’s a series of videos on YouTube that I subscribe to.

Wanted Female Pheasant Age, Doesn’t Matter


My wife and I lived in the area that is now called Poulsbo Place.  In an effort to find a new home, seven or so years ago, we resettled on Hamilton CT near 1st Ave.

We loved having the run of the place.  There are lots of open spaces with green grass to run across (ergo my nickname, “Road Runner”).  We found just enough trees, including some with low-lying branches, which made a great home for our children.  You see, we hide our nest on the ground, not up in trees.

Life was more than great.

Then it happened.  I lost my mate.

I don’t know where she went.  NO more do I frolic around the neighborhood.  Instead, I spend my days looking for Mrs. Road Runner.

Once, I found a shiny new black car, and I jumped on top and found her.  Every morning, somewhere between 6am and 9am, I’d meet that car and peck and peck at her but she never came to life.   I pecked so much looking for her,  that I damaged the top and side of the car.  I just don’t understand why she won’t come out to play.

Then I found a green car and new blue car —  and thought I saw her there, too.  But all that happened was that the humans woke up early, and ran after me.  Sometimes they threw their newspapers at me…not sure why they’d do that!

The black car was fixed and now is covered.  I can no longer see my true love there.   But now I see her all the time in what the humans call glass windows.  Alas, peck as I do where she is trapped in the glass, she is not paying any attention to me.

Shouldn’t these humans thank me?  I mean I’m the best alarm clock around, visiting them 7 days a week, waking up whatever humans have overslept.   I also visit a few other times of the day.  Nothing can keep me from finding my true love.  Nothing humans leave on the stairs, not the smell of bleach they wash the stairs with, not even red hot chili peppers will stop me.

Of course, I also poop a lot all over their cars and steps.

Please help the humans on Hamilton CT and 1st Ave. sleep a little longer on the weekends.

Help me find a mate.



(c) 2015 Maria Marsala who lives on Hamilton CT!

Do You Know a Woman?

Paula Abdul | Check Yourself | Avon Breast Cancer Crusade


In honor of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, the Avon Foundation for Women launches a powerful new call to action – #CheckYourself – featuring the release of this exciting new music video created with and led by acclaimed singer, songwriter and chorographer Paula Abdul.

#CheckYourself aims to cut to cut through the confusion related to screening strategies and encourages women to take control of their own breast health with three simple steps: Know Your Risks. Know Your Body. Talk To Your Doctor. #CheckYourself is the latest step in the Avon Breast Cancer Crusade, which raises funds and awareness for critical research and access to care programs.

The key to prevention is knowing how to protect yourself, and early detection remains incredibly important. Women should be aware of their family’s health history, perform routine self-exams and visit a doctor annually. Women over 40 should have a mammogram performed by their doctor.

Learn more at the AVON Foundation website http://www.avonfoundation.org/